Why Most Goals Fail (And What to Do Instead) Every January, we do the same thing. We set ambitious goals. We feel motivated and hopeful. We tell ourselves this year will be different. Then February arrives, and most of those goals have quietly disappeared. The students who promised to turn in homework on time are back to old patterns. The reading goal you set for yourself gets buried under lesson planning. The intention to incorporate more movement into your classroom falls a

Why Winter Break Transitions Hit Different Let me paint a picture you probably recognize: It's the week before winter break. Your carefully established routines have dissolved. Students are bouncing off the walls. Half your class is already mentally on vacation, and the other half is stressed about changes in their home routines. Meanwhile, you're trying to finish assessments, close out the semester, and somehow maintain instructional momentum when everyone—including you—is r

Why Your Child Needs Structure (Even on Break) There's a reason why kids start to get a little... extra... a few days into winter break. It's not that they're being difficult. It's that human beings (especially young ones) thrive with some level of structure and predictability. When winter break routines completely disappear, kids often struggle. They don't know what to expect. They have too many choices and not enough direction. They stay in pajamas until 2pm and then feel w

Why Some Celebrations Miss the Mark I used to think celebration was simple. Praise the A students, applaud the test scores, hand out the awards at the end of the year. Done. Then I started paying attention to student reactions. The kid who shrank when I called attention to their perfect score. The student who worked incredibly hard to move from an F to a C but got no recognition because a C isn't "award-worthy." The ones who achieved amazing social growth but never heard abou

The Real Story Behind This Semester's Growth Let's be honest—when December rolls around, most of us are running on fumes. We're thinking about winter break, planning for next semester, and maybe counting down the days until we can sleep past 6 AM. But before we close the books on this semester, there's something worth doing: helping students reflect on where they've been and how far they've come. And I'm not just talking about academic progress, though that matters too. I'm t

Why Reflection Actually Matters (And Not Just as a Feel-Good Exercise) Look, I get it. Adding one more thing to your parenting to-do list probably sounds about as appealing as volunteering for cafeteria duty. But here's why helping your child reflect on growth  is worth the effort. When kids take time to look back on what they've learned and how they've changed, something shifts. They start to see themselves as capable. They begin to connect effort with outcomes. They develop

You've tried everything. You've set up a homework routine. You've talked to teachers. You've tried rewards and consequences. You've helped with organization. You've been patient and supportive. And your child is still struggling. Here's what's probably happening: you're addressing the wrong problem. Not because you're doing anything wrong, but because it's really hard to see what's actually getting in the way. When a child struggles academically, we tend to jump straight to s

Picture this: Two kids take the same test. Both get a C. One child looks at the grade, feels disappointed for a minute, and moves on. They ask the teacher what they got wrong and make a plan to study differently next time. The other child sees that C and falls apart. They cry. They shut down. They declare they're stupid and school is pointless. They refuse to even look at what they got wrong because it feels too overwhelming. Same test. Same grade. Completely different reacti

Let's start with a scenario you've probably lived through a hundred times. Your child sits down to do homework. You've set up everything they need. Books, pencils, a quiet space. They know what they're supposed to do. But 20 minutes later, they're still sitting there. Staring at the page. Fidgeting. Getting up for water. Starting and stopping. Getting frustrated. Meanwhile, that same child spent three hours yesterday building an elaborate world in Minecraft. Completely focuse

Let's talk about something that's probably keeping you up at night. Your child is smart. You know this. Their teachers know this. But somehow, school is still a struggle. They forget their homework. They lose track of assignments. They study for the test but freeze when it's time to take it. They can explain a concept perfectly at home but can't show what they know on paper. And everyone keeps telling you the same thing: "They just need to apply themselves more." "They need t