Why Reflection Actually Matters (And Not Just as a Feel-Good Exercise) Look, I get it. Adding one more thing to your parenting to-do list probably sounds about as appealing as volunteering for cafeteria duty. But here's why helping your child reflect on growth  is worth the effort. When kids take time to look back on what they've learned and how they've changed, something shifts. They start to see themselves as capable. They begin to connect effort with outcomes. They develop